Getting married? Better to be a Certified Public Accountant, unless you’ve got some seriously super smooth ninja budgeting skills, yourself! We know that keeping track of the Euros for your special day is not exactly a piece of (wedding) cake, however, it needn’t be the kind of dreary, daunting task, that puts a damper of your excitement about the festivities.
Never fear, TheWeddingSite.com has listed some great tips which can go a long way towards (financially) preparing you (and your cheque book) for the big day.
- Save and plan ahead.
As the old adage goes, failing to plan is planning to fail. This is especially true for financial planning. Weddings involve a major expense, which is conveniently rationalised under the guise of celebrating a major life event. Moreso when you’re getting married in Malta, where local weddings are traditionally extended well beyond colleagues, friends and family. So think smart and think ahead. Putting a little money away is especially smart, if your idea of a wedding is a thinly-veiled excuse for a splurging extravaganza of glittering opulence.
- Reality check.
Notice the gap between what you want and what you can actually afford. Be brutally honest with yourself and forget about the white horse-drawn pumpkin carriage. Leave that to Cinderella – or her modern-day less classy, bustier equivalent – Katie Price. This is the time to consider the musts first and then – if you have enough funds left over, go for the wants!
- Socrates (who is pretty much credited for being one of the fathers of philosophy) once said that what screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be. Same applies to weddings. Be brave and throw all your shoulds out of the window. Focus on those ideas which you can materialise in this particular version of reality, and not some mystical parallel universe, yet to be discovered.
Psychology Today ranked financial problems and related stresses as one of the main culprits of relationship problems, and also divorce. This makes discussing the wedding budget openly and directly with your partner a critical task. This is a time for those uncomfortable conversations about who will be contributing what to the wedding and what say they will have in the event. And yes, here goes the analogy of the band aid… It’s more painful to peel it off gently, so rip it off and be done with it. Just remember to be considerate towards your partner’s feelings.